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Annual Appraisal of Happiness:
Once we have established Individual Indexes of Happiness, we can determine
the major factors, which have contributed to our individual happiness or misery
for that year. The annual appraisal could be made during the Christmas to New
Year’s holidays, or preferably the week before one’s birthday. During these
periods, we can reflect on our behavior and determine why we had the score or
“grade” that we did. This is similar to students appraising their performance
when they receive back their examination papers.
It is good to make an appraisal of our happiness and well- being as
frequently as possible, but definitely not less frequently than once a year. On
an annual basis, we can then make proper resolutions for the next year to have a
higher value of IIH. Our resolutions might be, for example, to take actions,
develop mental attitudes, or modify our behaviors or lifestyles
in ways to give us higher points (aiming for a total of +100) in
love, accomplishment, forgiveness, gratitude, and so on, and
minimum points (aiming for 0) in all negative aspects of our
life. Since accomplishing all these goals may be difficult all
at once, we may wish to make plans to work on certain issue for
a given month, and then move on to another one the next. As
unconditional service is the surest way of increasing happiness,
as discussed in chapter 7, we may wish to choose some kind of
service project in which to become involved. There are literally
infinite ways in which we can help others. Based on our talents
and interests, we must also make our service as unconditional as
possible. Ideal service might be in the form of giving more love
or nurturing to our spouses, children, parents, and other people
in our lives. It might also be to other children and old people
who have been deprived of this essential element of life. Our
service project might be to help eliminate the tragedies of
hunger and disease from our society. It might also be to provide
financial assistance to the research foundations or charitable
organizations of our choices. I am sure we will never run out of
good things to do. Again, we need to determine what is the best
service we can render, then do it unconditionally, with a great
deal of love, enthusiasm, and graciousness.
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